Get excited about your challenges

Get excited about your challenges

Mannnnn, lemme y’all you. This week has been crazy. Over the weekend, my body kinda died on me and I just allowed myself to rest. That was hard. I had a major paper, it’s midterm week and work is basically kicking me in the ribs with steel toed boots.

Now, I found myself feeling like “fk wtf. Fk. Shit”. Lol yes, when I become stressed I can’t even do words 😂. This was unacceptable. I had to revamp because life doesn’t stop and my responsibilities and goals don’t disintegrate because I need a moment. I took that moment , for sure, because I needed it. But I did have to have a little conversation with myself and decided to share the main points with y’all.

First : redefine self care. The candles, the baths, the journals: all cute but not always practical. During this busy season, my self care routine looks different.

Washing my hair is not a fun spa day thing. It’s something I do in the middle of cooking and laundry. But I choose to do it, because who’s tryna be bald headed and successful? Not I.

Sometimes I choose to use my spare 15 minutes to straighten up my room because the chaos of my room makes it impossible to focus.

Self care has become “what do I need in this moment ? What will help me function better, today ?”

Second: I tap in to my relationships and ask for help.

With so much going on and kinda feeling like I’ll never “catch up” and it’s so important to reach out. I’ve definitely needed to check in with family and friends more. In the past, I mistakenly created this image of being cool, calm and collected, even when I’m losing my ish. I’m working on dismantling the “strong black woman” trope. Granted, most of the times I only chat with one friend daily, it has been so helpful to just put away my worries when we talk. I have also been very intentional about my relationship with God. I have needed to rely on him for more things, especially the ones I cannot give myself on a good day. One example is discipline. I typically like to sleep ten hours if I can, but now, Im lucky if I get six. It might sound like I am being dramatic, but I depend on him to wake me up after a long night of studies and tackling work, and home life.

Third: priorities!!

There are thousands of little fires in my day. A paper I forgot about and did at work 😭😭😭 (still for a B- though), a client in distress, relationship (not necessarily romantic) issues , whatever.

I recognize that I am only one person, with twenty four hour days. Sometimes things won’t get done. Asking myself “what needs to get done today??” Has been a great tool in navigating this season. It has lessened my chances for overwhelm and giant under eye bags ( the only bas we want are Kate Spade and Jimmy Choo).

The most important thing I’ve done this week was learning how to be less rigid. My professors are not going to fail me for having a hard time. My job won’t fire me for missing a deadline. My anxiety won’t kill me. I am okay as long as I keep moving and pour out my best effort every day. This last week has got me excited, because I know this grind season is the prelude to a harvest season.

Anyways, lemme go do one of the million things I've ben saving for "tomorrow" for a week.

Thanks for stopping by,

Shaday