Healing is a Commitment
- shadayturner
- Feb 25, 2019
- 3 min read
Being someone who has a shaky relationship with commitment, why would I choose such a title? Because it applies and in order to heal I HAVE TO start being honest with myself. Now I'm sure you have all heard some version of the cliche "Time heals all wounds", but I am here to take it a step further.
Yes, to some extent, but what matters most is what we do with that time. I like using analogies a lot, so lets just say you got nasty cut while going about your day. What you do about that cut will depend on how severe it is right? So similarly when we experience emotional or spiritual injuries, we need to assess the wounds in order to learn how to heal them.
Practice asking yourself:
What is wrong here?
Where is the damage?
Affirm: I am working towards feeling better.
Following this, I like to search for the root of the issue. Yup, I'm talking about blaming, but for the greater good. In finding out the cause of the problem, we empower ourselves to remove ourselves from situations that cause us pain or learn how to minimize the pain.
If you got that cut walking through a sketchy short cut, knowing the cause of it can help you to avoid taking that shortcut again or even to explore your options. Additionally, finding the root of the problem allows us to learn where to place our forgiveness. A huge part of healing is letting go of the anger and resentment of being hurt. Letting go of these emotions serves us because we take the power back. No longer will the pain take up room in our hearts, because we can make room for love, peace and healing.
Practice asking yourself:
Who/is responsible for me feeling like this?
Affirm: I am in control of my thoughts and feelings and I am aware of the outside influences on my thoughts and feelings.
Next, after assessing the wound, we need to figure out what can be done. This part is the part that I think a lot of people miss. Yes, we know something just isn't right, but we decide to leave it to time. In order to heal, we need to make a conscious decision to do so and commit to working towards that place of healing. Referring back to my analogy of the cut, will a simple band-aid do? Are you gonna need stitches? Similarly we need to commit to finding out what we can and are willing to do in favor of our healing.
Practice asking yourself:
What can I do to feel better?
Affirm: I am actively working towards my healing. I am putting in the work.
The remedy depends on the damage. If you have a minor cut, a bandaid will suffice. If you have some minor emotional damage, simply talking to a friend might do the trick. In some more severe situations, more work is required.
It can definitely be scary to face issues head on, especially when those issues are ones we carry around all day. But in order to heal and make those burdens lighter, we need to commit to find ways to feel better. This could include therapy, at home self-care, spirituality or anything else that uplifts you. Finding things that help us to feel better is such a powerful tool. It takes away some of that helplessness that the world can pile on sometimes and it provides us with an escape that we can ALWAYS turn to.
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