The Three Scariest Things about asking for a raise in your first year

Man oh man, it's time to come clean. I am not always confident. I get scared sometimes. I absolutely hate "confrontation" or speaking up. Now that I've exposed myself as an average human being, let's dive into the three things that kept me stuck.

1. Fear of rejection: I've probably never mentioned this before, but being told "no" can make me feel rejected and underserving. With this knowledge, I worried about inviting this dreaded feeling into my workspace. As I mentioned in my previous post, the possibility of being turned down can create an array of feelings. Some of which I discuss in my youtube video. I imagined responses like "who the flip does she think she is ?" I worried that if I did meet criteria, it would harm my confidence delete all the hard work i had done up until this point.

2. Fear of making bad decisions: Indecision is yet another chink in my armor. I contemplate(d) for days, weeks and even months in extremes. Something about making a bad decision just terrifies me. I always fear "jumping out of the frying pan into the fire". Fortunately for me, I'm a hottie now so it's all good. One problem with indecision is that it keeps you stuck. Fear of making mistakes will keep you in the same position. Mistakes are an uncomfortable, yet necessary part of life. Makes sense right? Mistakes are how we learn.

2. Fear of change: This one is super wild and irrational, but when it comes to asking for what I need or setting boundaries, I worried that the other person or entity would start being combative . I somehow imagined that my asking would be received as being ungrateful and could get me fired. It's really weird but I think it goes back to whole self worth. That, however, is another story for another time.

Now I know some of this seems really brief, but I am realizing that video format is the best form of delivery for some of this juicy content. This is why I'm excited to introduce my Youtube channel, where you will find videos that collaborate with my blogposts.

In my upcoming video, I will discuss ways in which I challenged the fears I mentioned above it!!. I look forward to seeing y'all there.

Peace and Blessings,

Shaday